Debra DeMartino, LCSW-R
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Debra DeMartino, LCSW-R

Debra DeMartino, LCSW-R

Debra DeMartino, LCSW-R | Office: 516.932.7619, Email:, Fax: 516.307.3351

Hi I’m Debra DeMartino! I have been a Clinical Social Worker for over 20 years, and I have loved every minute of this work. Human behavior and emotional experiences have been fascinating to me for as long as I can remember. Aside from my formal education, I have always (and continue to) read and learn the latest findings and techniques for the most effective therapeutic outcomes. As a result, I am well equipped to offer a variety of different approaches to help individuals that work with me gain self-knowledge, and see results more quickly. Personal experiences and losses contribute to my knowledge and empathic style and clients often report feeling “deeply understood and supported.”

With an undergraduate degree in Psychology and a Master’s Degree in Social Work, I have keen insight into the emotional issues at hand, as well as the influence that relationships and personal environment may contribute to a person’s life experiences. This information is useful so that the client can understand all influences in their life and establish clear and manageable goals when choosing to.

My early years in this field were centered in working with young adults and their families, which led to a heightened understanding of family dynamics. In more recent years, I have had the good fortune to work directly with some wonderful authors on the topics of coping skills and communication skills. Both are essential to creating a balanced life in my opinion. These experiences have impacted my expertise in these areas, and my clients benefit directly from the extensive tools that I offer in their therapeutic work with me as a result.

Healthy coping skills are essential for dealing with stressful situations, and can help an individual face a situation, take action, and persist in solving a problem. Unhealthy coping behaviors often provide instant gratification and lead to greater distress and negative consequences in the long run. Such is the case with “emotional eating.” My training with Tricia Nelson, the author of “Heal Your Hunger, 7 Simple Steps to End Emotional Eating Now,” has led me to help many people address this particular issue. I have facilitated groups on this topic as well. The result is that individuals find healthier ways to cope with their emotions, which not only helps in better decision making, but raises self-esteem.

I have also done extensive training with Debra Roberts, LCSW, author of “The Relationship Protocol…How to Talk, Diffuse and Build Healthier Relationships.” This work leads me to offer simple, easy to learn tools for communication that lead to exemplary results. The ability to master the life skill of being a good communicator, leads to greater confidence and better relationships overall. Without the confidence to share oneself with words, they may go unsaid, and this can lead to anxiety and depression. I consider communication to be a healthy coping skill for this reason. When couples do this work together, they often resolve their issues more quickly and report feeling connected to their partners in a much more fulfilling way. The bonus is that they feel better about themselves as well!

This is the work I do and love. I have clear vision into the needs of my client, and I find no greater pleasure than in seeing the individuals and couples that work with me reach their fullest potential and find greater happiness in their lives.

Areas of Expertise

The ability to have a conversation with ease about “anything” is something that may seem unthinkable, yet with some simple skills that are easy to learn, this can be anyone’s experience. People who have done this work with me report greater fulfillment in all of their relationships. Not only does good communication improve relationships, but it boosts self-confidence and self-awareness tremendously. It’s empowering to know that you can express yourself and handle any conversation that you want to have with anyone!

I teach couples and individuals how to communicate in ways that help them convey clearly and kindly what it is they want to say. This ability creates trust, and when there is trust between two people in a conversation, both parties experience greater satisfaction. This makes for a deeper connection in important relationships, as well as a greater ease in professional and casual relationships. Having these tools is nothing short of life changing!

I have assisted many individuals in their grieving process. The loss of a loved one can result in anxiety, depression, and even loss of motivation when the pain doesn’t subside over a long period of time. The emotions that surface from loss can feel agonizing. With respect for this very vulnerable experience, I help the bereaved to access coping skills and hope, that then allow them to regain balance in their life and thrive again.

In addition to the death of a loved one, the pain of loss can be experienced for a variety of other reasons. Some life transitions can bring a greater experience of loss than one might expect. For instance, divorce, the ending of any important relationship for that matter, loss of health and even some changes that accompany the aging process can stir grief. The COVID 19 Pandemic brought with it yet more experiences of loss. Many have lost financial security, loss of a general sense of safety (previously enjoyed), and even cancelled milestone events.

I have helped individuals in all of these situations. While it might feel impossible to move through heartache of these sorts at times, healing from such losses occurs and often leads to newly discovered strength and confidence.

A dictionary defines Trauma as a deeply distressing or disturbing experience. Divorce, life altering illness, the death of a loved one, poverty, an assault may all be considered “traumatic,” however it can be more subtle than is realized at times. This is sometimes true in the formative years of life, when coping mechanisms and a child’s ability to understand dynamics in their environment has not yet matured. In either case, the result of trauma may be experienced as a sensitivity and reaction to certain “triggers,” which interfere in a person’s quality of life.

Talk therapy alone may not heal deep rooted or prolonged trauma. In such cases, as an EMDRIA trained therapist, I offer EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) as a modality of treatment that has been long studied and proven to offer healing of traumatic symptoms at the deepest level. This safe form of treatment leads some individuals to say that it feels as if they “got their life back.”


  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Coping Skills
  • Relationship Issues
  • Communication Skills
  • Self Esteem
  • Life Transitions
  • Loss & Grief
  • Trauma
Debra DeMartino, LCSW-R | Office: 516.932.7619, Email:, Fax: 516.307.3351

No pain in life is worth loosing yourself to...Loosing yourself is the greatest pain there is.

- Debra DeMartino

Debra DeMartino, LCSW-R